DEVELOPING CONFIDENCE IN HANDLING CHALLENGES.

The first thing you must know about developing or improving your confidence level in handling your challenges is that, everyone is confronted by various degrees of challenges in life. As long as you go through this life, you can never abscond from life’s challenges. But the pertinent question is, how do you handle and overcome your challenges? The first step to overcoming your challenges is, always see every of your problem as a challenge. Never say, “i have a problem” rather, “i have a challenge”. Life is like an open battle field, and only those who are courageous and have the right mental attitude often emerges successful. A challenge is a contest that comes to test your courage and your ability to handle tough situations. Those who compete in a race, football or wrestling competition puts in all their best and do all it takes to emerge winner, and when they come out successful, it builds up their courage to compete for a higher one. That’s exactly what a challenge does to us, when you face your challenges and overcome, you develop more confidence in handling tougher ones. Every challenge that comes your way, is an opportunity to advance to the next level. When i was in college, there’s this particular subject i find very awkward to comprehend. The first time i studied it, i couldn’t understand anything, so i decided to pack it up. But it was necessary i must write and pass it in the exam. After a week, i picked it up again to study it, but this time, i was a bit relieved because i felt i was beginning to grab it. But after two days, i decided to go back to the same book, but to my chagrin, the whole book looked entirely new to me and even more complex, i felt I’ve not started. I took it as a challenge and decided to give it two hours everyday, whether i understand it or not. After some weeks of studying it, i began to understand the principles and it became so easy that i love reading it more than any other book.That’s exactly how challenges looks like, when challenges comes your way, never run away from it. Welcome it, confront it, and never give it any space. See every challenge as a stepping stone to greater accomplishment in life. Never entertain any fear or become timid. So many people loose out because of fear, always be courageous in confronting your challenges. The more you confront your challenges, the more you’re building up your confidence in handling greater tasks.

OVERCOMING SHYNESS: DEVELOPING MORE EASE AND CONFIDENCE IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS.

The first thing you ought to know if you’re suffering from shyness, is that you’re not alone. Infact majority of people reports feeling shy in social situations (even if it doesn’t look that way to others). Shyness is an internal experience, and is not necessarily visible to the outside world. Infact, shyness is often misconstrued with coldness, aloofness or “snootiness” by other people. You can be surrounded by shy people all of the time without realizing it. Just knowing these alone can help reduce the feeling of shyness and isolation a bit. One way to ease your general feeling of shyness anywhere is to, look around for someone who seems to even be more shy than you, and go talk to him or her. Approaching someone who feels more shy than you, will help you feel more confident and less alone. You can as well talk about your common feelings of discomfort in social situations and feel supported. After this successful experience, you’ll probably feel ready to branch out and talk to more people. At least, you may have found a new friend. When we are feeling shy, our attention is turned inward, and we are preoccupied with fears of being judged by other people. This is very inhibiting, and makes us feel awkward. One way to deal with this, is to turn our attention outward. You can do this, by focusing on what we like about the other person. Imaging saying positive, appreciative things to that person like: “i like your smile” or “i like how alive you appear today” or whatever it is, that makes the person appealing to you. Then feel and say these appreciations to the person in your head as you approach him or her. You will be coming towards that person with the positive energy of appreciation, rather than the energy of fear of rejection. This will help you feel more at ease and feel more better towards the other person. This technique can be quiet helpful. My last recommendation, is practice. The more you try these techniques, the more comfortable you’ll become. Always remember that you are not alone. Most of us do feel shy in social situations. Practice these techniques, and you’ll meet more people in general, and hopefully that special one. Shy people of the world unite!! Shynessshy-main_full2-468x366

OVERCOMING SHYNESS: DEVELOPING MORE EASE AND CONFIDENCE IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS.

The first thing you ought to know if you’re suffering from shyness, is that you’re not alone. Infact majority of people reports feeling shy in social situations (even if it doesn’t look that way to others). Shyness is an internal experience, and is not necessarily visible to the outside world. Infact, shyness is often misconstrued with coldness, aloofness or “snootiness” by other people. You can be surrounded by shy people all of the time without realizing it. Just knowing these alone can help reduce the feeling of shyness and isolation a bit. One way to ease your general feeling of shyness anywhere is to, look around for someone who seems to even be more shy than you, and go talk to him or her. Approaching someone who feels more shy than you, will help you feel more confident and less alone. You can as well talk about your common feelings of discomfort in social situations and feel supported. After this successful experience, you’ll probably feel ready to branch out and talk to more people. At least, you may have found a new friend. When we are feeling shy, our attention is turned inward, and we are preoccupied with fears of being judged by other people. This is very inhibiting, and makes us feel awkward. One way to deal with this, is to turn our attention outward. You can do this, by focusing on what we like about the other person. Imaging saying positive, appreciative things to that person like: “i like your smile” or “i like how alive you appear today” or whatever it is, that makes the person appealing to you. Then feel and say these appreciations to the person in your head as you approach him or her. You will be coming towards that person with the positive energy of appreciation, rather than the energy of fear of rejection. This will help you feel more at ease and feel more better towards the other person. This technique can be quiet helpful. My last recommendation, is practice. The more you try these techniques, the more comfortable you’ll become. Always remember that you are not alone. Most of us do feel shy in social situations. Practice these techniques, and you’ll meet more people in general, and hopefully that special one. Shy people of the world unite!!