When a pilot enters a plane, there are four key things he must check before taking off. These are: The “lift”, “thrust”, “weight”, and “drag”. And all these four components works based on the principle of “force”. In life, there are forces that aids you to success and actualize your dreams, and there those that pulls you down or becomes an impediment on your way to success. This principle is also applicable to our relationship as human beings. There’s a school of thought that says, “your success in five years time, will depend on two things, the books you read and the people you meet”. Those four components of the aircraft, can also be linked to the categories of friends we have. There are friends who belongs to the “LIFT” category. These are friends who encourages and lifts us up when we are downcasted. They support our dreams, and can do anything to help us actualize it, even when we have failed and feel discouraged, they motivate us, they give us hope that rekindles our passion, and always stands by us. The second category, “THRUST” are also similar to the first, while the first category takes it very slowly, passionately appealing and encouraging us not to give up, these categories are daring, they try to break every barrier that tends to impede our journey to the acme of success. These categories can do whatever it takes to fire us to the zenith of success in life. They do not take no for an answer, and they’re very determined to help you actualize your dreams. The “WEIGHT” are those categories of people who tends to weigh us down. They make you believe you can’t make it or achieve your dream. They try to suppress every of your plans, and pulls you down to the level of failure. They are negative forces that needs to be overcomed in order to make it to the top. The last category is the “DRAG”. These categories drags you backwards unknowingly. You want to move forward, but they’re always there to drag you backwards. They’re also negative forces you should overcome, in order to move forward in life. The question now is, who are the people in your life right now? Are they positive forces that aids you to succeed or negative forces that hinders you??
There are certain mistakes most men often makes with women, which hinders them from being successful with women, or be in control of their relationship. Here are 7 mistakes men often makes with women. 1. THINKING YOU CAN BUY A WOMAN’S LOVE WITH MONEY: Most men often makes a mistake of thinking that they can buy a woman’s affection with money, especially those that have it. Women knows what they want or who they want. If a woman does not love you to start with, your money won’t do the magic. True love cannot be bought with money, so spending your money to buy a woman’s love is ill-advised. 2. CONVINCING A WOMAN TO LIKE YOU: Real men who gets the most women do not talk until they convince a woman to like them. They simply do most of the work by their actions, their composure, qualities, potentials and how they package and present themselves in public speaks for them. Women are very good at observing, they observe whatever you do, especially how you present and package yourself. You need not convince a woman to like you, just be yourself, because she already knows if she’s going to give in or not. 3. BEING TOO DESPERATE TO GET HER: Women are not attracted to men that are desperate about them. They feel you’re pestering them and would not allow them their freedom. Whatever you’re desperate of getting will keep running away from you. If you’re desperate to get any woman, she’s sees you as a pest, and she will keep avoiding you. Just do your best, prove to her you’re good, if she’s interested in you, she knows it, if she’s not, you can’t change it. 4. ALWAYS SEEKING FOR HER PERMISSION OR APPROVAL: Women likes decisive men, men that can take decision and stand by it. Always seeking for a woman’s approval before taking any decision, means putting yourself below the standard she expects from you. Every woman knows that there are moments a situation becomes urgent, and you need not ask for her approval before making the right decision. Unable to decide at that moment doesn’t make you the real man. Learn to make certain decisions on your own. 5. NOT UNDERSTANDING A WOMAN’S BODY LANGUAGE: Woman knows exactly what they want from you at any particular time, but they will never tell you, sometimes they may express it through their body language. Your ability to understand their body language at any particular time, makes you the real man. Try to study her and understand her body language, and how she responds to you. 6. ALLOWING HER TO UNDERTAKE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY: Most men often makes a mistake of leaving their responsibility to a woman. This is very wrong, it negates your position as a man. Some men allow the woman to undertake all the financial responsibilities, while they do nothing. Eventhough she’s doing it because she loves you, its only for a short time, in the long run, she will turn back to accuse you of financial irresponsibility, and you’re unknowingly losing your position as the man. Always try to assume your responsibility as the man, she’s only there to support you. 7. NOT SAYING THE RIGHT WORDS TO HER: Most men do not know how to talk or approach a woman, some say the right words at the wrong time, while others, the wrong words at the right time. But being successful with women, requires you to know the right words to say and when to say it. Do you know that most women falls in love with the wrong men, because the wrong men knows the right words to say, and the right time.
Most relationship never ends in marriage due to some avoidable mistakes. Here are seven mistakes most women makes in their relationship that makes it not to culminate into marriage. 1. PRETENCE: A lot of women pretends so much in their relationship. They pretend to be who or what they’re not, some try to hide their feelings, and would never express their feelings to the man, they do not show their real character to the man, for him to know what they like or dislike. It is better to let a man know the real you in a relationship and let him judge or make his decision based on the real you. You never can tell what a man wants in a woman, and real men always judge a woman based on her actions, and not by her words. These is why it is important you let him know your real character, there’s absolutely no need to pretend about who you are, if he sincerely loves you, he will stick to you, and if not, you let him go, he’s definitely not the man for you. Don’t pretend about who you are, so that you don’t feel disappointed in the end. 2. BEING DESPERATE: Most things we’re often desperate about, never comes to us. There’s no need to be desperate about anything in life. Infact, desperation is a sign of hopelessness. If something does not belong to you, no matter how long you struggle for it, it will never come to you, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Most women are extremely desperate, they want to own the man, no man wants to be owned or put in a cage. And no man will want to marry a desperate woman. You may be in that relationship for many years, but if he’s not willing to marry you, no matter how hard you try to hold him back, he will not. Men likes freedom a lot, give him the freedom he deserves, if he’s the man for you, no matter how long it takes, he will definitely come for you. However, being protective of your man, is different from being desperate, you can protect him from any intruder, but always allow him his freedom. “What you’re desperate of getting, will keep running away from you”. 3. FORCING A MAN TO MARRY YOU: Marriage is not by force. Forcing a man to marry you, is simply, selling your right or pride as a woman. There’s no need of forcing a man into marrying you, all you’ve got to do as a woman, is do your best for the relationship, protect the relationship and pray for its success. If he’s destined for you, nothing can change or stop it. 4. BEING COMPLACENT ABOUT HIS AFFAIRS: Most women are very complacent about their relationship. They never show any sign of seriousness, they do not care about the activities of their man, or try to enquire about his challenges and how to help him come out of it. They’re only interested in what they will get from the relationship. Men likes that you try to know about their challenges, especially when he loves you, it makes him feel you know your duty as a woman, and you can contribute positively to his life. But if you always show a lackadasical attitude towards his affairs, he will disregard you in most of his activities, and may even want to keep another relationship outside. 5. BEING A LIABILITY: Most women have become a liability in their relationship. They put all their hopes on the man, without thinking of how to add value to their relationship. I do hear some women say, “i want to get married, so that he can take care of me”. That’s wrong, before a man can take care of you, you must be able to take care of yourself first, especially in a relationship. Don’t put your hope on any man, do something for yourself, be creative, seek ways of adding value to the relationship. It makes the man respect you, and sees you as a woman that can help to actualize his dreams. Don’t be a “liability”, always be an “asset”. 6. SACRIFICING YOUR FUTURE TO PLEASE HIM: Some women makes a very big mistake of sacrificing everything in their life just to please a man in a relationship.That’s not love, because love isn’t foolish. Some sacrifice their career, education, business and whatever they’ve got, just to make him stay in the relatnship. This is irresponsibility, no matter how hard you try to please a man, if he does not love you, you can’t make him stay. Don’t be deceived that you can make a man love you or stick to you by sacrificing all you’ve got. Just do the right and necessary things, then leave the rest for nature. 7. LISTENING TO FRIENDS OPINION ABOUT YOUR RELATNSHIP: Listening to your friends opinion about your man or your relatnship is not healthy for your relatnship. It can ruin your relatnship, remember that other women out there are looking for an opportunity to know about your relatnship or even be in your position. So don’t be gullible to your friends advice or opinions. Sift every advice before you accept it.