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Most relationship never ends in marriage due to some avoidable mistakes. Here are seven mistakes most women makes in their relationship that makes it not to culminate into marriage. 1. PRETENCE: A lot of women pretends so much in their relationship. They pretend to be who or what they’re not, some try to hide their feelings, and would never express their feelings to the man, they do not show their real character to the man, for him to know what they like or dislike. It is better to let a man know the real you in a relationship and let him judge or make his decision based on the real you. You never can tell what a man wants in a woman, and real men always judge a woman based on her actions, and not by her words. These is why it is important you let him know your real character, there’s absolutely no need to pretend about who you are, if he sincerely loves you, he will stick to you, and if not, you let him go, he’s definitely not the man for you. Don’t pretend about who you are, so that you don’t feel disappointed in the end. 2. BEING DESPERATE: Most things we’re often desperate about, never comes to us. There’s no need to be desperate about anything in life. Infact, desperation is a sign of hopelessness. If something does not belong to you, no matter how long you struggle for it, it will never come to you, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Most women are extremely desperate, they want to own the man, no man wants to be owned or put in a cage. And no man will want to marry a desperate woman. You may be in that relationship for many years, but if he’s not willing to marry you, no matter how hard you try to hold him back, he will not. Men likes freedom a lot, give him the freedom he deserves, if he’s the man for you, no matter how long it takes, he will definitely come for you. However, being protective of your man, is different from being desperate, you can protect him from any intruder, but always allow him his freedom. “What you’re desperate of getting, will keep running away from you”. 3. FORCING A MAN TO MARRY YOU: Marriage is not by force. Forcing a man to marry you, is simply, selling your right or pride as a woman. There’s no need of forcing a man into marrying you, all you’ve got to do as a woman, is do your best for the relationship, protect the relationship and pray for its success. If he’s destined for you, nothing can change or stop it. 4. BEING COMPLACENT ABOUT HIS AFFAIRS: Most women are very complacent about their relationship. They never show any sign of seriousness, they do not care about the activities of their man, or try to enquire about his challenges and how to help him come out of it. They’re only interested in what they will get from the relationship. Men likes that you try to know about their challenges, especially when he loves you, it makes him feel you know your duty as a woman, and you can contribute positively to his life. But if you always show a lackadasical attitude towards his affairs, he will disregard you in most of his activities, and may even want to keep another relationship outside. 5. BEING A LIABILITY: Most women have become a liability in their relationship. They put all their hopes on the man, without thinking of how to add value to their relationship. I do hear some women say, “i want to get married, so that he can take care of me”. That’s wrong, before a man can take care of you, you must be able to take care of yourself first, especially in a relationship. Don’t put your hope on any man, do something for yourself, be creative, seek ways of adding value to the relationship. It makes the man respect you, and sees you as a woman that can help to actualize his dreams. Don’t be a “liability”, always be an “asset”. 6. SACRIFICING YOUR FUTURE TO PLEASE HIM: Some women makes a very big mistake of sacrificing everything in their life just to please a man in a relationship.That’s not love, because love isn’t foolish. Some sacrifice their career, education, business and whatever they’ve got, just to make him stay in the relatnship. This is irresponsibility, no matter how hard you try to please a man, if he does not love you, you can’t make him stay. Don’t be deceived that you can make a man love you or stick to you by sacrificing all you’ve got. Just do the right and necessary things, then leave the rest for nature. 7. LISTENING TO FRIENDS OPINION ABOUT YOUR RELATNSHIP: Listening to your friends opinion about your man or your relatnship is not healthy for your relatnship. It can ruin your relatnship, remember that other women out there are looking for an opportunity to know about your relatnship or even be in your position. So don’t be gullible to your friends advice or opinions. Sift every advice before you accept it.