A particular woman had been in pain and sorrow for a very long time, because she had lost one of her sons. She had four sons and two daughters. This woman had been very sorrowful over her son’s death, that she became uncomfortable, even her remaining children could no longer console her. After much self-pity, so a day came, she decided to get rid of pains and sorrows entirely from her life. Therefore, she resolved to visit a herbalist home to ask for a charm that can take pains and sorrows away permanently from her life. She took off at once, on getting there, the herbalist welcomed her and asked, “woman, what’s your problem”? She replied, “i need a charm that can get rid of sorrows entirely from my life”. The man turned, and looked at her with great admiration, and said “woman, i’ve no charm to give thee that can take sorrow away permanently from your life.” but to help you, i’ll advice you go into the city, search for all the beautiful buildings, anyone you come across, enter there and enquire, “please i’m looking for a place where there’s no pain and sorrow, but only happiness, is this such place”? So the woman, being very excited and hopeful of getting a solution to her problem, took off at once. She came to first building, being very inquisitive, said “please i’m looking for a place where there’s no pain and sorrow, only happiness, is this such place”? The occupants looked at her, and replied, NO Madam! They began to narrate all the calamities that had befalling them just recently. She had pity on them, comforted them for a while, then continued her journey. She came to the second building, they welcomed her, then she enquired right away, “please i’m looking for a place where there’s no pain and sorrow, but only happiness, is this such place”? They answered, definitely NOT. And began to tell her the story of how they lost there only child to a fire incident. She was flabbergasted, she also sympatized and comforted them for a while, and left to other places. But to her chagrin, every house she went to, it is only one form of sad news or the other, she was busy comforting and consoling every household that she even forgot about her own problem. And she went back home being relieved of her pain. If you think your own condition is the worst, go out there, and see what others are passing through, then you’ll have no choice but to give thanks to God!!
A young boy once said to himself, “when i grow up, i’ll change my world”. At precisely 25 years, he was set to actualize his dream. He’s ‘modus operandi’ was to travel from continent to continent to conscientize people on the need for attitudinal change, but he soon realized and thought within himself, that it would be a wide elephant project and will require a huge financial investment. Therefore, dropped the idea of going from continent to continent and narrowed it down to his own continent alone. After travelling to three countries in his continent, he discovered that it is very awkward changing people of different race, cultures, beliefs, languages etc. He became dissappointed since he’s passion is gradually waning. Therefore, he said to himself, “since i couldn’t change the world, and couldn’t change my continent, i think i have to comeback to my own country”. At least this is my country. He set out again, went from one media house to another, writing on newspapers to talk to his fellow citizens about attitudinal change, but he wondered, the more he preaches about change, the worse the attitude of his fellow citizen is getting. He became even more frustrated, he therefore resolved to go back to his community to begin the campaign for change of attitude. But he was extremely dissappointed and frustrated, because his kinsmen were not even ready to listen to his sermon. He therefore went back to his home, his immediate family, to begin the campaign there. But to his chagrin, as his children were growing up, they would not adhere to their father’s instruction, and were all going the wrong way. At this point, all his hopes has been dashed, and he was extremely frustrated because he is fifty years already and could not change a single soul. He sat down and said to himself again, “since i couldn’t change the world nor my continent, nor my country, nor my communty, not even my family, then, i think i have to change myself”. It took him so many years to realize that, if you must change the world, that change has to begin with you!!